Some Big And (Hopefully) Exciting Changes!

You may have noticed that I haven’t written anything for the past two weeks. There’s a reason for that.

I’ve spent the past year blogging. And what I’ve discovered over that year is that I don’t enjoy blogging. Part of it is that I’ve never enjoyed writing. I think I’m a good writer, I just don’t enjoy it.

But there’s another reason, one that has slowly dawned on me over the past year.

Here’s how blogging generally works. I write something. About half of the people who are subscribed to this blog open the email. And one or two people post a comment. Rinse and repeat, rinse and repeat.

For me, there are a couple of problems with this way of operating. I write what interests me, what I feel inspired to write about in that moment. But I have no idea what YOU want or need.

Secondly, blogs don’t lead themselves to interaction. Ultimately, I’m a coach, I’m not a blogger. As a coach, I need interaction. Without interaction, how can I help you with whatever your challenges are, with whatever difficulties you may be facing?

So as of today, I’m declaring….I am not a blogger!!!

Which leads me to what I hope is some exciting news. I know it is for me and I hope it is for you as well. After investigating my options, I’ve decided to introduce two new things:

  1. I’ve created a Facebook Group called Live Fully: With Purpose + Meaning + Joy. My hope with this group is to create a community, a community where we can support each other in the quest to build lives of meaning and purpose. You can check out the group here at this link.

    I certainly hope you’ll consider joining the group. Facebook groups are designed to be interactive and my hope with this group is that I can support you on your journey through life, wherever you’re headed.

    We’ll talk about all the things that truly matter in life: meaning, purpose, joy, gratitude, happiness, values, spirituality, careers, relationships, and much, much more.

    (BTW, this new Facebook Group is different than my facebook fan page. The fan page, as I’ve discovered, isn’t particularly interactive either – what normally happens is that I post something, a few people click “like” and that’s it).

  2. I’m going to be creating a series of free webinars. The first one will focus on how to create a meaningful life. The second one will focus on the science of positive psychology and how to apply it to daily life. After that, I’ll create one on building relationships through authentic, heartfelt communication. And more will follow after that!

    I hope to have the first webinar done in early January, with a new one to follow every one to two months. Each webinar will also tie into a specific coaching program that will be offered in both group and individual format.

    What excites me about the webinars is that they’re focused on a specific topic. In that way, I hope I can bring more value to your life, rather than just randomly writing about whatever I want on my blog.

    So how do you find out about the webinars? That would be one more reason for joining my Facebook group since I plan on announcing their availability in the group.

Now, that leaves one unanswered question…what becomes of this blog?

Despite my misgivings about blogging, I do plan on continuing this blog. My plan is to write one new post every month, a longer and more in-depth post than what I’ve been writing in the past. And rather than writing whatever I want to write about, I plan on using the discussions from the Facebook group to inform what I blog about.

So that’s it! I hope you’re as excited about these changes as I am! And I hope to see you over on the new Facebook group. Feel free to share the new group info with others who may be interested in joining.

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Weekend Reads: Wisdom From Around The Web

Weekend Reads: Wisdom From Around The Web

It’s Friday so you know what that means…another edition of Wisdom From Around the Web. I’ve picked out three articles that I hope add value to your life:

  • The importance of service as the path to happiness
  • Why children deserve to be treated with respect
  • What to do when you’re feeling lost in life

Happiness is Not For You — Meant To Be Happy

I meant to share this article last week but it slipped through the cracks. Most of us want to be happy. But we often go about looking for it in the wrong way, focusing on our own needs and desires. As the author points out, the heart and soul of happiness is serving other people. By focusing on their happiness, our own will also grow.

Children Are People Too — Happiness Is Here Blog

This is a wonderful article and a great reminder for all of us since we all have contact with children in one form or another.

I’ve read that in the Middle Ages childhood was not viewed as a distinct phase of life. Our views have fortunately evolved over time. At the same time, as the author points out, children are still people even if they are in a different phase of life as adults. And as people, they are “no less deserving of respect and acknowledgement than adults.”

Feeling Lost? What To Do If You Haven’t Got Your Life All Figured Out Yet – Simple Mindfulness

I think we’ve all felt lost at some point in our lives. I know I have, more times than I care to admit.

Let’s face it, we live in a world that can be confusing, overwhelming and that presents us with far too many options. This post has some great suggestions for how to get through those challenging times in your life and refocus on what truly matters.

I hope you enjoy these articles. As always, have a wonderful weekend!

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You Deserve My Best….And I Deserve Your Best

You Deserve My Best….And I Deserve Your Best

“The truest form of love is how you behave toward someone, not how you feel about them.” – Steve Hall

I seem to continually come across things on the internet with which I strongly disagree. This week was no exception.

This time it was a quote that I saw on Facebook. The person who posted it clearly agreed with the opinion presented in the quote. And when I saw the quote, it already had over 60 likes. I’m sure by now it has over 100.

Of course, the person who posted it on Facebook wasn’t the first person to do so. I’m sure there must be lots of people all over the world who have seen the quote at some point and agreed with it.

I don’t.

Here’s the quote. It’s by Marilyn Monroe.

“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”

Here’s why I disagree with the quote. In my opinion, our default should be to offer each other our best. That’s what I strive to do and I hope that you strive to give the same to the people in your life.

That’s not to say we won’t make mistakes. I’m not perfect and I don’t expect perfection from other people. But our default intention should be to give others our best.

The quote, in my opinion, is 100% backwards. We should strive to give each other our best so that when we do mess up (as we surely will!), they’ll be willing to overlook it and/or forgive us.

Personally I don’t want to be around people who believe that I need to put up with all their negative stuff before they’ll even offer me their best. Why would I want to put myself through that? But if you start by trying to give me your best, then I’ll do everything I can to handle you at your worst.

Honestly, is it really too much to ask that we treat each other with kindness, respect, and compassion? Just as our normal way of relating to one another.

So that’s my challenge for you today: to strive to always give the people in your life your best. Just as common, human decency. And to overlook the faults of the people in your life who are also trying to give you their best.

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Weekend Reads: Wisdom From Around The Web

Weekend Reads: Wisdom From Around The Web

It’s Friday so it’s time for another edition of Wisdom From Around the Web. This week’s edition includes:

  • An infographic on the scientific benefits of compassion
  • An article about relationship lessons learned from a dog
  • An article about life lessons learned from an unexpected visitor (a cat)

Happy reading!


Top 10 Scientific Benefits of Compassion — Emma Seppala

I prefer to share items which were published recently. However, I also believe strongly in the importance of compassion! So while this infographic was actually published last December, I thought it was definitely worth sharing.

And since Dr. Emma Seppala is the Associate Director at the Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education (CCARE) at Stanford University, she definitely knows what she’s talking about!

Eight Important Relationship Lessons I Learned From A Dog — Good Men Project

As I mentioned last week, I recently joined twitter. I’m still trying to figure out how it works, but one thing that I like is that I’m able to find quality articles that I wouldn’t be able to find on my own.

This is a definite example. It’s a guest post on The Good Men Project by author Perry Brass who has his own blog at Perry Brass. The article covers lessons that are applicable to any type of relationship.

10 Life Lessons From An Unexpected Guest — Always Well Within

Shortly after finding the above article, I found this one! In this case, the unexpected visitor was a cat that snuck into the author’s home. Check out the article to find out what the author and her husband learned by accepting the unexpected guest into their lives.

And now we have balance…one article for dog lovers, and one for cat lovers!

Have a wonderful weekend!

P.S. Don’t forget to follow me on twitter at @edherzogcoach and I’ll follow you back!

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Life Is Easy. Why Do We Make It So Hard?

Life Is Easy. Why Do We Make It So Hard?

Life is easy. Why do we make it so hard?

That’s the idea presented in the video below, a video that I urge you to watch when you have time. The video is 15 minutes long but even if you only watch a few minutes of it, I think you’ll find great value in it. Though I hope once you start watching, you’ll want to see the whole thing.

Of course, the idea that life is easy, isn’t a universally accepted one. After all, the Buddha is famous for having said “Life is suffering”.

And psychiatrist M. Scott Peck, author of the best-seller The Road Less Traveled, opened his book with the words “Life is difficult”.

So which is it? Is life easy? Is it suffering? Is it difficult?

I suppose it can be any of those things depending on your perspective and where you choose to focus your energy.

For today though, let’s assume that the speaker is right and that life is easy.

Here then is your challenge for today: What is one change that you could make in your life in order to make it easier? And when do you plan on making that change?


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